I want my daughter to have a positive self image. Specifically, I want her to feel beautiful (inside and out). What I do not want is for her to obsess over her appearance. So, I have challenged myself to not say anything negative about my appearance in front of my daughter.
Goals – Keep it positive.
Growing up, all the women in my life criticized themselves and others all the time. I believed this was normal. It is not. My goals for this challenge are: (1) that my daughter have a positive self image; and (2) that I change my way of thinking and view my appearance in a positive way. This may be the most challenging thing I’ve ever done in my life, but setting these goals is a great reminder about what kind of parent I want to be.
How can you help?
You can participate with me (and hold me accountable)!
Also, you can challenge yourself. Pledge to not say anything negative about yourself, especially your appearance, in front of your kid(s). Find an accountability buddy. I’m happy to be that for you, if you need it. I know I do!
Each week I will post about my progress, and I will ask you to comment on yours. We can either commiserate or celebrate. Either way, we will have to take responsibility for our actions, take ownership of our behavior, and move things forward.
WIN: I got dolled up and took headshots, and I was happy with how I looked. Wearing a little bit of makeup and seeing photographs of myself that I actually liked went a long way for my self-esteem and self image. I’m not going to start wearing makeup as a regular thing now (too much work, not enough time), but it was a fun adventure!
LOSS: I called myself fat. The context doesn’t really matter, but here it is. I was going through my closet and trying to decide what to wear to take my first set of professional headshots. I just didn’t feel comfortable in anything, and I announced to my husband–in front of my daughter–that I was way too fat to get booked for anything anyway, so what I wear probably doesn’t even matter.
How did you do this week?
Comment below. Whether you want to share your story or encourage me to keep working toward my goals, I’d love to hear from you! Also, if you feel so inclined, post a picture of yourself that you are happy with to my facebook page.