Mom seeking Mom (Friends)

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Do I have any mom friends?

I am not sure if I have any real mom friends. That’s a weird thing to admit, but it’s true. I’m an introvert by nature, and over the course of my life, I have let very few people really get to know me. I also don’t use the word “friend” lightly.  I know some moms I would consider “buddies” and some I would consider “acquaintances.” However, I can only think of one mom I know who is really a friend, and she lives 3,000 miles away.

Who am I?

I’m a first-time mom.

A Latina.

A lawyer.

A Libertarian.

I have a daughter, and I live in West Los Angeles. Vaccinating my child is extremely important to me. Comedic improvisation is something I do for fun and because it makes me genuinely happy. I love to watch football and be disappointed with the San Francisco 49ers (my home team)! I rarely drink alcohol… even wine. I’m more of a coffee addict. I have an extremely hyper basenji (dog) rescue that drives me nuts and isn’t particularly friendly with strangers, but is fiercely loyal to me and my daughter. My daughter has super red hair and blue eyes.

Am I special?

Each of those descriptors seems to place me into a special category or might help me get into some special club, but then, the other descriptors seemingly do not fit. I work 32 hours a week, so I can’t go to Mommy & Me yoga at 10am on a Tuesday. If your kid hasn’t gotten the MMR vaccine, I don’t want him to put my kid’s toy in his mouth. I believe in baby-led weaning, but I still don’t give my daughter meat on the bone. I’m “still” breastfeeding, and I don’t need advice on how to transition her to whatever plant- or animal-based milk you might think she needs. I used to be an athlete, but now I’m lucky if I don’t throw my back out while chasing the baby (although, I would love a partner in workout crime).

What is the deal?

Anyway, suffice it to say, I’m at a crossroads. I want my daughter to have great friends, and it seems she does. She gets along really well with the kids at daycare. Most of the kids in our playgroup are vaccinated. We are lucky we joined that group when my daughter was about 3 months old. I just find myself feeling like the outsider wherever we go. I am a square peg, just sitting next to a round hole, not even trying to fit into it.

It’s not you, it’s me.

Despite being present at La Leche League meetings, playgroups, Mommy & Me classes, etc., I still somehow missed out. The other moms get together socially outside of our scheduled group meetups. They know each other’s husbands and intimate life details. Maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m socially unavailable. Regardless, I am glad my daughter has good friends her age, and I’m willing to sacrifice whatever it takes for that to be the case.

Wanna be friends?

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11 thoughts on “Mom seeking Mom (Friends)

  • January 5, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    I’m looking for mom friends too!! How do I reach out??

    • January 14, 2017 at 6:34 pm

      Hey! Check out my facebook page or follow me on twitter. I posted links in this post. Thanks so much for reading!

  • January 13, 2017 at 10:08 am

    I will right away seize your rss feed as I can’t find your email subscription link or e-newsletter service.
    Do you have any? Kindly let me know so that I may subscribe.


    • January 14, 2017 at 6:35 pm

      Hi! That’s a great idea. I don’t have a subscription service set up yet, but I will soon. Stay tuned!

  • January 15, 2017 at 1:29 am

    Oh mama! I can relate. Finding truly relatable friends is so hard. ❤ You’re not alone in that!!

  • January 15, 2017 at 1:34 am

    Hello! My name is Luz, I am a first time mom to a now 18 month old boy. I am a Mexican/Spanish only child raised in Orange County now residing in Whittier, California. I am an attorney who practices in criminal defense/immigration around Southern California. I struggle to make mom friends because … my work schedule gives me very little time for “mommy and me” activities. (But seriously is it too much to ask for a Saturday morning Mommy & me class?) I am also the first of my friends to become a mom. Luckily one of my closest friends had her baby about 6 months ago so she and I get to dish it out about mommy hood without any criticism. I breastfed my LO a little past 1 year, although I would have liked to go for more my work schedule just didn’t allow me to. My little one is as friendly as can be but he needs friends as there’s none in our family (or at least that we like and within close vicinity) lol. I blog over at

  • January 15, 2017 at 1:43 am

    My son is 3 and I don’t really have what I would consider mom friends of kids his age, but my friends have kids my daughters age, so I do have mom friends in her peer group. Maybe things will change when he starts school.

  • January 16, 2017 at 4:45 pm

    Right here with you! I’m on the opposite coast, but I need more mom friends.

  • February 26, 2017 at 4:50 am

    This is so true! Finding mom friends is difficult. It’s hard to connect with only kids as your common ground. I’m constantly looking out for moms who have the same interest and hobbies. 😄 So yeah, I wanna be friends. Aaand maybe you can check out my blog too.

    • February 26, 2017 at 4:53 am

      Thanks for reading! I just found you on insta and will definitely check out your blog. Thanks for stopping by!


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